EMILYDSTAR: 2010

The meeting between the Federal Government team and the Nigerian Labour Congress (NLC) and the Trade Union Congress (TUC) did not produce the expected result for both sides and so the three days warning strike might take place tomorrow as threatened.

The trade unions threatened that unless there was a new development on their demand for N18,000 minimum wage within 48 hours of the meeting, they would press ahead with the three-day warning strike.

Comrade Promise Adelusi NLC Acting President and Chairman of the Strike Committee stated the position of the union.

After hearing from Comrade Adams Oshiomhole it is almost certain to say the strike commences tomorrow as the position of the committee set up by the National Economic Council last week to look into the issue was presented to the media by Governor of Edo State, Comrade Adams Oshiomhole , who said that they had placed all the facts at their disposal before the union to the effect that there was nothing they could do on the matter before November 25, 2010 when the National Council of State would meet.

If you really believe that your man is the one you are destined to marry, you can make it happen. It is actually possible to take measures that will influence and get your boyfriend to propose. Every woman has the power to make a man crave a commitment with her. She just has to learn how to unleash that power.
First, start thinking like a man. That's not easy for a woman but it's incredibly important if you want to learn how to appeal directly to his heart.
It's frustrating and disheartening to love a man who won't take things to the next level. For us, it seems only logical to tell our boyfriends how we would like to get married since we are in love anyway. Unfortunately, the men do not usually see things from the same angle, and such a step can just do more harm than good. When you're in this situation it seems as though every well meaning friend and relative has their own advice to offer. Some will tell you to remain patient, others will tell you to drop him and move on to someone who is worth your energy and love.

Don't bring up the issue of marriage to him
Don't talk about engaged friends or married friends. Trust me, he gets the picture. Leaving bridal magazines around your home or pictures of weddings in your laptop / blackberry is so old school. You need to get rid of anything that says marriage around. Don't tell him again what type of engagement ring you'd like. Don't talk about anything wedding. Stop telling him and start showing him.
When a woman makes it clear that she's desperate to get married, she loses a little of her appeal to her man. He wants to be the one chasing you. For instant, instead of constantly talking about how much you want to be married to him, you need to do the opposite. Stop talking about anything at all related to a serious commitment. Erase ideas like, going to church or events together in same outfit.
Moves like moving your things into his apartment and practically living with him is really such a wrong idea. It might just be all you will get. Don't make him retire before getting the job. You need to love your own apartment.

Be less accessible
Visiting him constantly is really a wrong move. You need to stay home and let him come looking for you. Don't let him predict you. Let him start turning up.
However, you should not give him a total space because we don't want to give room to cheating. But you should not be the girl who comes every weekend to cook for him, clean for him, wash for him, above all throw your body for him. You need to be busy some of those weekends. Let the fast-food, laundry house do the chores for him.
Don't get him too relaxed. Be scares at this point.
The few times you are there with him, don't spend it with body contact. Talk about a project your working on. If he has things to say, listen. Show small care about his work or life. Talk less. Let him miss you being there for him. Don't get carried away. It got to be brief.
Also break the comfort routine of always been there at particular days. Miss some weekends with him. For example, pop in during the week maybe once or twice but make it a brief entrance. That's just the 'checking act'.

When you clearly give him the impression that you are entirely available to him, he will thus relax his efforts, and won't feel the urge to do anything more. But whenever a man senses that there's some distance between him and the woman he loves he'll work harder to keep her.
Be smart and appealing to others
Flirting around his friends when they visit is not such a good idea but make sure when you are around and they come around that you don't leave their stomach empty with your appealing delicacy.

If his married friends visit with families, make them as comfortable as possible especially the kids but avoid the sit and chat angle with them. Be smart, be busy.
When visiting him in for example his office, be as appealing as the morning sun. Be smart, gorgeous, beautiful and respectful. Make sure your smell is right and your hair is right. Leave heads turning, be breath taking. Above all, make a brief entrance. Be scarce at the premises. Let your every visit be cherished.

Be the topic

Men love the chase. When you do not challenge your boyfriend commitment to you, you will be more appealing. If he knows that you're right there always waiting for him he may start to take advantage of that. If he typically waits until the last minute to make plans with you, tell him you're busy. Let his calls ring through to voicemail sometimes. The goal here is to make yourself appealing to him.
You don't have to live your life in limbo waiting for him to decide your future for you. You need to focus more on your own needs and interests than his. Don't always wait for his call.

Instead of worrying your head over the commitment, get yourself to be the topic. Set some rules for yourself when it comes to him.

Get engaged with your carrier and be independent. Show him that you're not going put your life on hold until he decides the time is right to be with you. It's just switching gears.
Men love the chase! He wants to be the one who catches you and if you make it abundantly clear that he's already got you all wrapped up in a nice, neat, little package, it's much less appealing to him. So make him chase. Don't give up your dreams in favor of what he wants. Independent women draws the attraction of many men and when your carrier and activities starts taking your time, attracting others interest to you, he will not want to loose you.

Men notice when the woman they are with suddenly shifts her focus. If you've been hounding him for a proposal and you stop, he'll sit up and take notice.
That's exactly what you want.

PAUSE...........to be continued

xoxo

Emilydstar